I realised that since turning 35 three years ago, I hadn’t met anyone I liked romantically, who was also single, straight and interested in me. ’ one married ex-boyfriend wrote on my Facebook page. I joined running clubs, did acting classes and dance classes, went on skiing holidays and singles holidays and badgered my friends to set me up with their friends.Some attempts were more successful than others: a singles holiday to Greece made me feel like Elizabeth Taylor due to all the men after me, whereas one evening spent dinner dating with seven single women in their 40s and just two men — one of whom walked out after ten minutes — made me want to give up on the idea altogether.
But when I phoned a dating agency eight months ago, everything had taken on a new sense of urgency. ‘Haven’t you found yourself a husband yet, Bridgey? But don’t look desperate — men hate that.’ I went speed-dating, online-dating, wine-tasting dating, quiz-dating and dinner-dating.This means that the dating pool after 30 isn't quite what it used to be."The dating pool has shrunk by 30, with more of your peers in long-term relationships or marriages, and with your social circle feeling smaller," said e Harmony's Chief of Advice Jeannie Assimos.For example, three simple ideas for creating dating opportunities include smiling genuinely, approaching men first and learning the art of flirting.His assessment requires a fundamental shift in thinking – women must not be afraid to make the first move!